Guilt. I feel it everyday. Not getting to school early enough. Not leaving school to get home soon enough. Somedays I feel more like I have failed to meet everyones needs, or accomplish everything I ‘think’ I should be doing. This feeling isn’t just for principals-teachers and other professionals feel it as well.
This weekend our ‘plans’ were changed with a sick 11 year old. Instead of racing to swim meetings, reviewing papers and getting the shopping done for the week. I stayed home and watched movies with him all day. Just about when the guilt of not being productive enough started to creep in I watched the end of Ferris Bueller’s Day Off and heard this:
I realized that letting go of the guilt I feel will open me up to opportunities and moments that otherwise would pass right by me. We all sacrifice things for what we believe is the greater good-but if our priorities are out of line we might be loosing out on the people and things that matter most down the road.
How this is going to work:
- I use my Panda Planner every morning. This helps me to remember what my goals for the week are (see #2) and also gives me opportunity every am to reflect and be grateful for the things that happened yesterday and what is ahead for today.
- Starting my 12 Week Year. Thanks to an amazing Mastermind group-we read this book in December to kick off 2017 (nice planning Daniel). Today starts my 2nd week and so far so good. I have an amazing team of ladies holding me accountable on Voxer and a very supportive spouse at home. My short-term tactics range from being present in classrooms everyday to meal prep and watching nutrition at home. My long term goals include becoming a more FOCUSED principal when at school and FOCUSED parent/spouse when at home while established a FOCUSED fitness/nutrition plan (Thank you Bethany, Neil and Mark for my #oneword2017 motivation).
- Leaning In to Let Go. In 2017 I am also going to try really hard to say goodbye to the guilt that hangs like a monkey on my back. It seems as if I am the only one holding myself to this impossible standard of being a 27/7 Principal, Parent, Spouse, Friend, Etc. And by releasing the guilt I will have more time and energy for the relationships and joy occurring in the day to day moments of our lives.
Take some time this week to look at your calendar and put some *Pause* into it.
- read (for fun-gasp!),
- play games with your kids,
- go out for coffee with a friend,
- go for a walk/run/swim/bike/etc.,
- or another one of your Passion Projects.
The more you try it-the more it becomes routine. And the more opportunities you will have to catch the life moments Ferris Bueller reminded me about.
Have a great week!
PS-if you have ideas I would love to hear them! Join me on twitter Wednesday, January 11th from 9-10 EST for #BmoreEdChat where we are going to talk work-life-balance!