In the article “How to Set Boundaries” Brene Brown highlights the necessity of setting up boundaries between home-life-family while honoring time for yourself as well.
Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. Brene Brown
This can be a difficult task-especially if you are one of
those us who well…ummm.. has a hard time saying no.
“Can you stay late and meet with a family?”
“Could you bring treats to school tomorrow?”
“Would you volunteer as a Sunday School Teacher?”
“How about coaching your kids basketball team in your free time?”
……do I need to go on? Probably not.
One of the strategies in the article that we went into deeper during our Power of a Teacher book study was developing our own Mantra for those times when “no” is the only answer.
Make a Mantra Activity
Find your own Mantra and using the supplies-design a poster to hang/hold/keep with you to remind you that you are the priority and it is okay to say no.
She smiled politely and simply said, “I’m sorry. I can’t this time.” The ground did not swallow her up. And she smiled and thought, “note to self.”
That is the problem with putting others first; you have taught them you come second.
Before I say yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to yourself.
Never put off ‘til tomorrow what you can straight up and CANCEL.
You have to say NO to a lot of good things in order to be able to say YES to a lot of great things.
You can do anything but never everything. David Allen
Saying yes to happiness means learning to say NO to things and people that stress you out.
Do no harm…but take no S$%@#
Good Luck with the challenge of learning to say ‘no’. As challenging as it is-you, your family and your #whitespace will thank you!